The logics of sexuality

People tend to think about sexuality in the same way they think about accounting. All people really give you is the historical cost, if one has slept with men, women, both, or perhaps even all genders. This is wrong on so many levels.

What does historical cost really tell you about the company’s future? Not much. Nothing in fact. I’m not interested in how much money you have spent, I’m interested in your best guess of the future. Should I make an investment or not? Who or how many you have slept with will not give any clues to if you are good in bed or not. Are you gay, bisexual, something-sexual? I couldn’t care less. If we are going to have sex, I would just like it if you were sexual. That we are compatible. The best guess of the future. Not who you tapped two years ago.

We should just stop defining people based on if they have slept with men, women, who and what ever. It will never tell you anything about their sexuality. We will always get it wrong, because it’s not forward-looking. We can’t for sure know who they will meet, love and have sex with in the future. Your sexual history will never tell us anything about your sexual future.


Anti-Gay Hate Crimes in Miami Show Even Pride Isn’t Safe

It was Rene Chalarca’s first Pride event. He and his boyfriend, Dmitry Logunov, attended Miami Beach Pride last month to celebrate their community. What they got instead were multiple lacerations and blows from a group of four men who hurled slurs at the couple as they attacked them.

“We probably provoked them because we were walking together, holding hands. It was gay pride, South Beach was full of gay people,” Logunov told NBC Miami. The assault was caught on CCTV footage, and the men were quickly identified and apprehended.

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